Dating 101
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Most dating advice from a relationship expert comes with an agenda of the ultimate goal – marriage.
Because of this agenda based advice, because of this limited and narrow-minded approach, most dates turn into interviews and most relationships end up disappointing the participants.
If you are wishing to become a parent, if you are looking for a great relationship, if you are wanting to go on some great dates, then you have to change your attitude from agenda based on self-respect based, you need to start from a Place of security and self-confidence, not a position of weakness and dependence.
Here are some different dating tips –
1. Look for someone to enhance your life, not complete your life – if you can not look after yourself then you are always going to be the weak link in the relationship AND the winner party in the relationship.
2. Maintain your sense of independence – do not be a dependent, do not seek out someone to look after you financially or emotionally; In any relationship you must look for an equal amount of give and take.
3. Maintain a sense of achievement – if you do not achieve for yourself then you become a burden; Being a burden is an unattractive quality, a quality that you do not want and can not have if you are to date successfully.
4. Maintain a sense of discipline – make sure that you are physically fit and as attractive as possible in a natural way; Be sure to allow space in your relationship, do not suffocate your partner; Assure yourself and your partner by displaying that your words and actions go together, and ensure that their words and actions go together as well.
If you can master, or even attempt to master the above dating advice suggestions, then you are setting yourself up for finding a relationship that works for you and for them.
Every date you go on should be viewed as an experience, a lesson, a possibility; But there should be no sense of anticipation or desperation; If you allow your agenda to take a hold then you will miss the truth; If you lose your sense of self then you are not an active or positive part of the relationship; If you do not know who you are then you are not going to offer anything to anyone.
Do not listen to the relationship expert that offers relationship advice based on marriage and children only, for that is the kind of relationship advice that only leads to rushed decisions and disappointments.
The most important part of any dating experience or relationship is you – knowing who you are, working on yourself, maintaining your boundaries while allowing for a sense of adventure is the only way to enjoy dating and to discover a relationship that works.
